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Stimulator Sex Toy Tips, Tricks & Techniques for Couples

Stimulator Sex Toy Tips, Tricks & Techniques for Couples


Having lustful & enjoyable sex is something that every person craves in their lives; some people hide their feeing while others admit it boldly. However, no matter what you do to your partner if you can not satisfy them in bed they would not be feeling completely satisfied and this is the reason why individuals are always looking out for ways and means to satisfy their relationship in the bedroom. One of the most exciting ways to do this is to introduce Sex Toys such as a Stimulator Sex Toy into your bedroom.


But what if you’re unsure on how to use Stimulator Sex Toys? Or perhaps you’ve never tried one before? Before you start, it's important to know how to use a Stimulator Sex Toy in order to achieve the most satisfying results, generally it’s not always as easy as picking any old toy, charge it (or insert good quality batteries) and press the 'on' button. If you have never bought one before, how do you know which type to go for? How do you use it during sex? Where and how should you use them so both of you feel as satisfied as possible? Read below for some tips & techniques.


Tips & Tricks

The first thing to realize is that are Sex Toys are now a regular part of many couples’ or individuals sexual routines. Using a Stimulator Sex Toy does not mean your sex life is not exciting, so banishing your partner's fear of insufficiency should be the first item to tick off on your list. Using a Stimulator Sex Toy is a fun way of reaffirming your mutual trust, making you more unbiased, intimate and confident with each other's bodies as well as a fun way to spice up your bedroom.


The next thing to consider is to get familiar with your Stimulator, take it out of the packaging, and find out how it works. If it needs to be charged prior to use, ensure it gets a charge overnight as this will allow the toy to ensure its optimal operation. If the toy takes batteries, find out which batteries and ensure you use good quality batteries and make sure they're brand new! We also recommend that you wash your stimulator well before using it. If it isn’t waterproof, be careful not to get any water near the battery case or charging mechanism to prevent potential damage to the toy. Also ensure the toy is free from any potential manufacturing defects before use, this includes sharp edges or seams, casing coming apart, any signs of prior use, etc. if these are present, please return your toy to wherever you bought it from.


After this, we recommend that you and your partner get comfortable with the feel of your Stimulator Sex Toy. Whilst the toy is turned off, run it along your partner's body, press it firmly against their skin and massage their muscles, ensure the feel is comfortable for your partner. If you feel that the Stimulator is not comfortable, perhaps you can try it with clothes on for a different feel, remember it's all about getting comfortable with your toy.

We recommend removing the batteries (if the unit has batteries) after each use to avoid potential accidental use of the vibrator without your knowledge, this can happen by mistakenly leaving the vibrator on or someone else getting their hands on it without knowing what it is, which may cause the motor to burn out. Extended periods without use and batteries inserted can also cause the batteries to corrode and / or leak from the toy casing.




Stimulator Foreplay


You can start by softly dragging your Stimulator over your partners most sensitive areas such as their breasts and nipples and the inside of their thighs. Although some people find that their neck, lips, stomach and even the inside of their elbows also respond well to the vibrations from the stimulator toy. When your partner starts to get aroused you can start focusing on their thighs and vagina. Keep teasing by gently trailing your stimulator around these parts, running it over the outside of their labia and above their clitoris until their body is crying out for more direct contact.


Gentle Teasing


It is similar to the Stimulator foreplay; except this time, you will be focusing more directly on your partner’s vagina but only making very light contact. You can start by applying the tip of the stimulator to the bottom of their vagina and gradually dragging it upwards and towards their clit. Once you reach the top of your partner’s vagina & above their clit, gradually drag it down. While performing this technique, your lover’s body will cry out for more strength, but do not give in just yet, try and maintain a “feather-light” touch for as long as possible!


Penetration with your Stimulator Sex Toy


Majority of the time a stimulator is mostly used for external stimulation, however if the toy is safe for penetration this can also be performed. Generally, if the Stimulator Sex Toy is deemed safe for penetration, it will be smooth with no rough edges and won't absorb bodily fluids. We always recommend using condoms over the Stimulator if it is used for penetration. Water-based Lubricant is also recommended for penetration using a Stimulator. 


Focusing on the Clit


To use your stimulator on your partner’s clit, move the tip of the stimulator above your lover’s clitoris and start to apply direct pressure on it; there are bunch of things you can do here:


You can push the tip of the vibrator into a particular side of your partner’s clit.


You can circle their clit slowly or very rapidly.


You can keep teasing them by softly applying minimum pressure.


You can rub it over and back towards their clit.


Test the Speed


Most stimulators have multiple speeds or at the very least two different speed options. We recommend to always begin with the slower speeds and work your way up to a comfortable setting for your partner. You may find that sometimes slower speeds work better than higher speeds on certain areas.


All in all, feel free to start experimenting with different techniques and most importantly, have fun! 


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